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Stacey Rae, I am Stacey Rae, Lady Alpha

Hey you,

I’m into celebrating. And I recently found myself stuck on the word favourite. Like it meant lesser than, greater than. Instead I’ve decided to reclaim the word as a way of celebrating the things/people/experiences that are in the forefront for me.

Here are my March favourites and….oh, what a juicy month it was.

For those of you who follow my journey on instagram, you know I spent a majority of my time in Mexico, navigating my work and life harmony, podcasting, relationships, and my heightened focus on my health.

With a theme of presence, power, and expression, here was a quote that made the corners of my mouth curl.

“If you were in your body you’d be home by now. —Berkeley bumper sticker”

Favourite moment : Lady Alpha Photoshoot with some of my favourite women. We laughed, we struck poses, we hugged, we stood together, supported each other, and continue to. It was one of the best days, my cheeks hurt for days.

Favourite book : The Five Keys to Mindful Communication – I LOVED this book. It presenced me to so much of what communication is about, being, listening, truly hearing people, being in the practice of witnessing life without so much damn judgment and mind chatter. I highly recommend this one. The audible version was narrated perfectly.

Favourite podcast : Tim Ferriss with Gabor Mate : New Paradigms, Ayahuasca, and Redefining AddictionAubrey Marcus with Anahata Ananda‘s conversation about the phases of Manifestation | a convo I had on Briana Bowley’s Podcast “The Live Free Experience” about the Cyclical Nature of Women and the Wild Woman Archetype (so good).

Favourite creation : My Spoken Word Piece “Woman, I Want to Apologize.”

Favourite food : Chia Seeds, I recently have re-found my love for these little beauties. MCT Oil, just yes. Lakanto sweetener (this stuff doesn’t affect your blood sugar, is natural AND tastes exactly like sugar) And obviously Cauliflower (whats new?).

Favourite supplement : Bitter Melon : I am presently healing my imbalanced blood sugar (potential insulin resistance) and this has been bomb. It feels more natural than chromium supplements I’ve been using for a while. Inositol has been another supplement in the forefront for me.

Favourite app : Space App. You know Im all about being aware of our habitual ways of being and this app is genius. If you’ve been finding yourself scrolling or consistently on SM, this app gently supports you to interrupt the patterns, tracks your daily use, and provides ways to eliminate the unnecessary social media time.

What’s in my ears : I’ve been pulling back the 90’s favs, here’s a playlist. I’ve also been mildly obsessed with anything Andreya Triana and I’ve had Stand by Me by Ben E. King and Father and the Sun by Empire Cast stuck in my head most of the month. While I work I’ve been enjoying Chopin and No talking ASMR – its a weird fascination I have with “sounds that feel good”.

Favourite movie : I AM – rewatched this, its so good and its available on Gaia.

Favourite people to follow : Krystal Gabriel, she will likely be on my favourites often. The dance between soft and solid, courageous friend, and leading and loving with depth, power and grace. Henare O’Brien, always provokes a pause. Less about learning more stuff and more about leaning into our beautiful humanness. Gabrielle Brick, rebel mama, one of my dearest friends, and she posts raw chocolate almost daily so, thats an automatic follow. I recently came across Laura Hesp, offering up #realtalk on intersectional feminism, mental health, and just all around inclusive love. Her stories are 👌, be ready to have your privilege pointed to.

Favourite product : Straight up, Jojoba oil has been rocking my socks this month. I love slicking it all over my skin after the shower. Scent free, I can add oils as I like and fun fact, its the closest oil to the skins natural sebum! It works beautifully for body massages. I’m also mildly obsessed with this facial roller and facial cupping. Watch for a video on these this month.

Oh, the sweet sound of a new month of favs.

*please note :: some of these links are affiliate links, because I promote what I personally use and love.

April 8, 2018 0 comment
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Each week I share a solo episode on Lady Talk Radio jamming on life, love, lady stuffs, and this week I decided to jump in with an Ask me Anything episode.

I received some juicy questions in the Lady Posse,and sat down in likely the squeakiest chair in the world to record this episode. I answered these questions (you know I don’t have a filter) on goals, overwhelm, self care, how I see life differently after many of the experiences I’ve had, and a few wild cards in between.

Ill do one of these Ask me Anything’s a month, so get your questions ready….

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April 7, 2018 0 comment
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Hey Girlfriend,

So here’s the thing. I totally sat on this blog for a year before allowing you in on it.

And not because I didn’t want to. I’m stoked you’re here btw.

I spent a lot of time thinking about the content I would create.

I edited the graphics, only to find myself editing them again.

I poked and perfected the widgets, the plugins, the random thing-a-ma-jigs.

A couple months later, starring at a screen in the same position.

It didn’t matter how long or how clear I was when I sat down to create it, I would continue to find “something” to finish or fix.

This is one of the reasons so many peoples dreams, the things in our hearts to create, stay in our hearts and out of the world.

For me, my vigilance with many faces of well disguised perfectionism, laid neatly on top of FEAR and was calling the shots. It took me publically placing some weight on how much I wanted this and outing the cycle I had been with about it, to truly switch things into “f*ck-it” mode.

F*ck it mode is and has been one of my most potent secrets for creative work. It can be the difference between hitting send, submit, or publish, a single instant of lessening my attachment long enough to get the work out there.

Nothing can hide from “F*ck it” mode. Because at its core, it doesn’t care what people think, it doesn’t even care what I think. All its designed to do is have me get out of my own way, like a subtle but powerful pause on my thoughts, a loosening of the grip on fear so I can respect the process even if just for 1 second at a time.

When I shared with The Lady Posse that a.) I wanted to start this blog b.) kept getting in my own way about it c.) was committing to completing it by x date, I still had no clue how. I still had all kinds of things I wanted to change and … most obviously, I was still playing the perfectionist game.

“You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.”
Pema Chödrön

Left to my own demise, the “weather” would get in the way of everything. As you’ll soon learn from the sharing of my life here, my emotional landscape is deep and lush and full and I’m okay with that. I experience a high gradient of feeling through the emphatic experience I have of life not to mention the ever moving spectrum of being a woman in the beautiful phases we are in each month. I would wake up each day with the best intentions of completing the blog only to find it shrinking down the seemingly never ending to-do list. I was subtly giving into my fears and calling it busy. I was saying I wanted something but not actually committing to it, and just recreating and repeating my experience of it always being “in the future.”

When I said, “F*ck it, lets begin” and let my community in on my fears, they were heard, hugged, honoured and held as I continued to create the thing not from “perfect” but from passion. Creating a support circle around me to hold me to what I said, had me keep checking in, keep creating the thing, even though it was uncomfortable.

Choosing F*ck it mode moment by moment and combining it with sweet support and accountability is bountiful, fluid, and creative.

So, here I am, sharing with you something that I’ve been wanting to for quite some time. I can’t help but think that if this was going on for me, there is likely a creative project, a thing you know you need to create in your heart that is awaiting its reveal. Awaiting you to stop fiddling with the widgets and say “f*ck it, lets begin.”

So welcome and here is where you’ll find my passions for natural livin’, girl bossin’, and just plain ol’ livin’ your best life. I love to write, read, cook, create, and follow my inner nudges. Weaving words through my experience of womanhood and sharing my many quirks are just a few of the things you’ll find here.

But most importantly, I promise to keep it real with you. Cheers to beginnings.

April 6, 2018 0 comment
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